The world of lesbian online dating has exploded in the last few years. At the dawn of online dating, lesbians and gays didn’t have a dating site to call their own. They were simply relegated to the larger general dating sites where they were put at risk for harassment. Even on the nicest of dating sites, it was difficult for gays and lesbians to freely express themselves in their profiles. Almost like ‘coming out of the closet’ all over again. Now that lesbian dating sites are becoming more common though, creating your lesbian profile can be done with a loose creative license. Here are some pointers to help you get up and running.
Creating a profile on a lesbian dating service is not too different from making a profile for a mainstream dating service. The biggest priority is ‘filling in the blanks’. For every site this will mean something different, but the basics hold true everywhere. Expect to provide information like your location, your gender/sexual orientation, and your age. Depending on the site, you might have to answer much more detailed questions about your physical appearance such as height, weight, and hair color. Other sites give you a chance to write a few paragraphs. Generally open-ended questions like these are asking you to describe yourself or your ideal partner. In this early stage of profile development, its important to be as honest and thorough as possible. Never leave any blanks, and don’t bother exaggerating or lying; you can’t hide behind your lies forever.
Posting a picture is an absolute must. Studies have shown that online daters are five times more likely to view your profile and over twenty times more likely to pursue you further if you posted a picture of yourself. A picture says a thousand words so make sure your picture isn’t secretly bad-mouthing you. This doesn’t mean you should dig up a picture from a decade ago, but at least pick one where you are well groomed and in a flattering position. If you can, try to use a picture that shows you doing something you love to do. Not only will you have an authentic happy glow about you, but the picture itself can help further explain what kind of person you are.
A lot of the better dating sites will give you the basic questions early on to build a basic profile, but once you’re in, there are often many more options for you. With some sites, you will get an opportunity to answer more questionnaires after you are a member. These mini-tests are designed to get a clearer picture of you, and make it easier for compatible partners to identify you. These optional quizzes are a must for anyone who really wants to take online lesbian dating seriously. If you get any other options in the process, your best bet is to take full advantage of them. For instance, if you are allowed to customize the design of your profile, by all means do so. Anything that makes you stand out from the crowd is perfect for getting the attention you need.
